5 Ways to Avoid the Inevitable Quarter-life Crisis

Like it or not we all have one, the inevitable post college, what am I doing with my life, downward spiral of a panic attack.  You make be reading this thinking, nope, never had one; and I’m here to say you’ve either not yet been through it, are currently going through it, or maybe your far beyond your mid twenties and what once sent you into a tizzy now seems so trivial its almost comical – and there we have it

1.First things first

Realize that what you’re going through right now will be one of life’s many hurtles. What pains you today will be a dull ache tomorrow. You’re lack of a 5 year plan will seem amusing when everything about your life falls into place in 6 months. Moral of the story: stop putting time constraints on things that aren’t time sensitive .Moral of the story: stop putting time constraints on things that aren’t time sensitive

Mathew 6: 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will worry about itself each day has enough trouble of its own.

Fun fact. I plan to see all the National Parks and collect their patches.
My dad and me in Canyonlands.

2.Find a Hobby that is unique to YOU.

Find yourself with extra time now that you’re not worrying about where your life will be when you’re 30? Find a hobby that releases stress and is all your own. If I had a dollar for every time a worry entered my mind I would’ve been a billionaire before I even entered my twenties, and the worlds wealthiest woman by twenty-five.

Last year I had a lot of extra time on my hands. Even though I had a full-time job that I absolutely adored, I needed a new goal. I’ve always envied the fitness bloggers. So, I set the goal to complete a half marathon with my best friend and we completed it with a smile on our face and a huge feeling of accomplishment in our hearts but, Id be lying if I said it was anything but easy or relaxing to me.

Then one day, on a casual stroll through Michael’s, my mom and I decided we would try our hands at watercolor painting…and LOVED IT.  I’ve also always admired anyone who could play piano, mainly my mom and grandpa (poppy).

So, I contacted some old friends, rented a few books from the library, and have been fumbling my way through YouTube tutorials ever since. Am a Picasso or Liberace? NO. But the beauty of it is there are no time constraints or hard and fast rules, and that’s what I needed most. The Jist: find a hobby that is right for you. And if you prefer running paint over running races, that’s fine too.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve that God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.

3.Never loose sight of your goals but respect the bus driver.

I’ve always dreamed of being an Advanced Practice Nurse and last year I decided I would take the leap and apply to a program (insert everyone’s opinions – you’ll get a lot of them when you’re chasing your dreams). I worried about not getting in. I worried about working full time and going to school. Pretty much you name it, I worried about it.  But, my mom was always there with the gentle reminder to “stop trying to drive the bus”.  Reality check: God has made everything work out the way they were intended to in the past, why am I pushing my way to the drivers seat now?

Psalm 34:4 I sought the Lord and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.

4.Just ‘dance it out’

The strive to be a billionaire with a perfect body and a staffed mansion by age 26 is a lonely road. We all want a perfect life. A life free from heartache and setbacks but once we see that life’s little pitfalls build character, we also start to see who we want to be next to us through it all.  Life almost never goes directly as planed, but isn’t that the beauty of it? Just know who you want on the dance floor with you when you need to dance it out.

Romans 12:9 Love must be sincere. Detest what is evil; cling to what is good.

5.Enjoy the ride

When I was 16 I would’ve never believed you when you told me I made it through honors chemistry.  I would’ve never thought I’d still be dating the same sweet guy that I adored in high school seven years later. And I definitely would’ve never thought a night out for Emmy would’ve resulted in a happy marriage that gave me my two sweet nephews that are always pulling me away from my school assignments. But that’s what I get the biggest kick out of. Some day were going to look back and smile at that silly 20 something…thirty something…year old worrying about … whatever he or she was worrying about and be, in the words of poppy “ already grown up”.

Peter 1:6-7 So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine.

Pictured: the best part of being an aunt…giving them sugar and then giving them back.
My Michael and Me just before my senior prom. May 2012

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